Bhardwaj Rish

Finding my partner feels more like finding  my kind . I’m this mix of an Indian boy with Indian familial ties, but European hobbies and a European way of leading life. I've lived in both worlds for 15 years each. There aren't many that have seen and lived in both worlds, and experienced completely different ways of life. Maybe I am asking for too much, but I don’t understand why one wouldn’t. If I have high standards for most things that I do in life, why wouldn’t I hope or want my partner to think from the same lens? Here's my value system. Be generally optimistic. A positive, happy person whose baseline state is to lean towards an optimistic outlook towards everything in life. Be fit. If one is not physically fit, there's low chance they're mentally fit. Plus, being fit shows discipline and consistency. Be hard working. Everything in life is a project. From raising children, to picking up groceries weekly, to building a home. And no one wants to work with a lazy ...

"Why do you want to move?", he asked me.  --- One of the things humans try to do is control and predict every little aspect of their life. From relationships, to work, to weather, to time. We constantly live under the illusion that knowing what will happen and preparing for it is a possibility. And then life surprises you and you see you had little control in the first place. However, there are things I feel you can do to position yourself in such a way that increases the chances of your desired outcome. What that means is if you're hoping to learn to speak German, it makes very little sense to live in India. You could however position yourself such that you move to Germany, or find a job at a German institute, and your chances of speaking the language dramatically increase. Just in the same way, if you're hoping to find love - to find an Indian partner who has lived a life much like yours, you have a much higher chance if you position yourself in a country where ther...

I’ve been in India for the past two months now, and for the first time in my life, I can imagine myself live here again. Nothing drastic has changed in my day to day life, nor in either of the nations per se, but maybe I’ve had enough time to experience the flip-side to know what India’s strengths are. I’ve always acknowledged how I get the chance to live in two different worlds. But this is the very first time I’ve realized I also lead two different lives each time I switch countries. For me, Germany is a nation where you put the self first - you learn about yourself as an individual. It’s also a country where you learn to live life in the way they show us in movies - walks in parks, play sports any time of the day, vacations in every season the climate has to offer, meetups at little cafes with chairs out on the street. Work is secondary, rarely one’s primary driver in life. Therefore, it is also rarely one’s identity. The country and the mindset is averse to change. The philosophy h...